“Around here, however, we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things… and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”–Walt Disney
Marathon Man and I marked our 20th wedding anniversary last week. Twenty years. It doesn’t quite seem like yesterday, but it doesn’t seem like two decades ago either. Being married to him is truly a gift. This quote from Walt Disney most likely refers to the company culture he created at Walt Disney Studios. But it also describes our marriage to a tee.
We don’t look backwards for very long. One of the readings in our Wedding Mass was 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7. “Love…does not take into account a wrong suffered.” We forgive and move on. We don’t hold grudges (which for me is pretty remarkable, because I’ve been known to be like Atlas when it comes to grudges). For us, what’s best for The Marriage comes first. Not what’s best for me or best for him or even what’s best for the family. Forgiveness is always what’s best for The Marriage.
We keep moving forward. As with anyone, there have been some hard times in our marriage; job loss, attempted foreclosure, miscarriages, cross-country moves, struggles that come with parenting. But through it all, we keep moving forward. What good would it do The Marriage if we let ourselves get stuck in the mire? We have learned to hold on to each other, lean into each other, and keep moving forward, relying on God and in our Faith to carry us through.
Opening new doors and doing new things. I mentioned that cross-country move and back, right? There’s also that time that I left my well-paying job to help start a non-profit and stay at home more for the kids. And then went back to work full-time. There’s new restaurants, new wineries, new favorite places. New careers. New lifestyles. New things big and small add to the adventure.
And curiosity keeps leading us down new paths. We dream. We dream about vacations, three-season rooms, front porch decks with Adirondack chairs, retirement, romantic weekends, daily Mass, futures for our boys. We make plans and set out on our way. Sometimes we find that God has a different path for us to follow. So we follow that one instead, curious to where it will lead. We trust in the plans God has for us, “‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.” (Jeremiah 29:11) and look forward to seeing what He has in mind for us.
We’re all in. All in for life.